he need the answer!!

[kokanChai]

I need answers (from a frd in singapore)
guys pls him help out..he need the feed back!

Why is it that when i ask my gf out on sunday she will want to rest at home. When her idols come, she will wake up early morning just to go queue up for 8-10 hours for a damn crap!! signature?

I am ok with that for sometime already, i have already compromised by feeling f-care when her idols come over to spore for a few days. Until today things got really (*&)*(^)*&....

last night i asked her out today then she said she wants to stay at home.

This afternoon i called her to ask her about lunch and her sleep last night. Ended up cannot get her. When she picked up the phone, she told me she was at J-8 since 8.30am. She defended that wanted to tell me late last night but i was asleep already. But she missed the point totally. It is not abt informing or not..

pardon me but WTF, rejected going out with me today saying want to stay home to rest, then last night her frens called her to go see some clowns on stage today she go. Within less than 1 hr, she changed from wanting to stay home from waking up early morning to go queue up for a signature.

I am hurt, and yes... nothing else to describe but i am HURT.

Am i very bad for feeling that i am less important than her clowns? I need answers......

 

[TypicalGuy]

u need the answer..
not ur fren

coz the fren is u rite?

 

[acbc]

Answer? Dump the chick...

 

[boggysv]

PIITB!!! and leave after that.

 

[SkYwAlKeR]

gals mood is like that... no one to blame... gals nature... they change from good to bad in jz a blink of eye... cant help..

if u cant stand her, dump her... if yes, well, accompany her to the signature thing... make sure she dont go with other guys lo...

 

[EG8]

I need answers (from a frd in singapore)
guys pls him help out..he need the feed back!

Why is it that when i ask my gf out on sunday she will want to rest at home. When her idols come, she will wake up early morning just to go queue up for 8-10 hours for a damn crap!! signature?

I am ok with that for sometime already, i have already compromised by feeling f-care when her idols come over to spore for a few days. Until today things got really (*&)*(^)*&....

last night i asked her out today then she said she wants to stay at home.

This afternoon i called her to ask her about lunch and her sleep last night. Ended up cannot get her. When she picked up the phone, she told me she was at J-8 since 8.30am. She defended that wanted to tell me late last night but i was asleep already. But she missed the point totally. It is not abt informing or not..

pardon me but WTF, rejected going out with me today saying want to stay home to rest, then last night her frens called her to go see some clowns on stage today she go. Within less than 1 hr, she changed from wanting to stay home from waking up early morning to go queue up for a signature.

I am hurt, and yes... nothing else to describe but i am HURT.

Am i very bad for feeling that i am less important than her clowns? I need answers......

dude
you are dealing with woman la.ask yourself, is that clown come to SG everyday? every week? no right?

pardon her la... just a small matter.dont let the small thing ruins your relationship.you accept her as who she is right? dun be so sensitive.i know u miss her, but sometimes u need to give her some quality times for her own.to be with her friends or family or on her own.put urself in her shoes then, lateru will understand.

good luck buddy

 

[WBH8668]

if u still love her just forgive her. relax...

 

[bikinigal]

agree...
but from a gal's point of view...if da clowns is far more important than her own bf, wat more to ponder about...
DUMP HER!!
then, she'll realise it's her fault for not realising ur feelings...

if u still love her just forgive her. relax...

 

[headache]

When the clowns cums to town, you take her there, lar. Now, she cun't give you any escuses for not going out with you liao, mar. Then, when she does, observe how transfixed is she on seeing those clowns.
Now, if she turns down this clown date, you are fucked!!! She's dumping you, in the polite way.

Go buy an armfloat and enjoy it, is safer, cheaper and less headache.

 

[Duke Red]

The way I see it there are 2 possibilities:

1) The harsh reality may be that she wants to end the relationship but doesn't know how or doesn't have the heart to. As such she's sending you all these signals in hope that you pick up on them. You did not mention this in your thread so I have to ask, does she invite you over to her house when she stays home? Or have you asked if you could go over and did she reject you? If she did, then signs are not good. We have to take notice that as men we sometimes get carried away and expect our partners to do everything we want to do, neglecting their interests. Why don't you go see the clowns with her or queue up with her for autographs? I'm sure she'd appreaciate the gesture then when you want her to go along with something you like to do, she'd be more inclined to.

Getting over a person is never easy and the common mistake people make it to try and erase memories. We are born with the capacity to store huge amounts of memories in our minds and erasing them is not as simple as a flip of the switch. Instead, replace them with other memories sending the old one's back to the end of the line. Go out with other women more on a personal basis if just for conversation.

2) She's taking you for granted. The sad part of a relationship is that in some instances one person loves the other more. And the one that is most loved sometimes takes this for granted whether intentional or not. To find out, try to calling her and instead wait for her to call you. It's difficult, I know. Try to occupy yourself by doing other things you like with your friends. If she doesn't call you for 2 days then you know you're in situation 1). If she does call you, continue to play this game and she will miss you more and more because she will come to realise how lonely it is without you. The more you are there for her, the more she will take you for granted.

Just because she decides to go out on Sundays to get the signatures of her idols it does not necessarily mean that time with you is any less important. Some women are secure with the fact that they can see you almost everyday. If you are looking at a long term relationship and so is she, then you have the rest of your lives together. Again, she could be taking this fact for granted. I understand you've tried talking to her about this but I assume it usually ends in an argument. That's the problem with discussions. Someone usually looses their temper and the other person then shuts off automatically and the discussion ends in an argument that leads to a stalemate.

Just my 2 cents mate. Hope things brighten up for you.

 

[NOSkill]

PIITB!!! and leave after that.

Isn't supposed to be DHITB?? :D

 

[AE80TypeD]

aih, one day one time idol come concert and miss his date oso wanna break down oledy ar.... aiyah. i sure dunno the back story, but if this is the first time it happened and u're feeling like dying... silly lah.

if she has been doing this for a while (more than a few times), it means she wants some distance and time away from each other. the fren should ask HIMSELF and reflect (SERIOUSLY) on what he might have done. men's pride will never help him see what he did wrong. if he is absolutely SURE he hasnt done anything wrong to deserve that, then thats the nature of girls. they do things that confuse all of us guys. live with it, or dump her (after having a discussion. talk about it).

note: asking her directly "whats wrong? wanna talk about it?" wont work. it only works in certain rare conditions where the situation is made suitable for her. believe me, women are ALL but straight to the point.

good luck to ur fren.

 

[boggysv]

Isn't supposed to be DHITB?? :D

It's all the same way of expressing love, so why be so fussy over the terminology?

 

[acura]

lolz.. you poor fella...

Think about it lah.. AT least she lets you know who's she's ga ga about. Imagine if she's seeing someone else that she can actually have? Idols are unreachable.. soo let her have it.. I'm sure she loves you just the same.. but girls are girls.. they like and will have all this insane crushes!

Either believe that she still wants you.. or else.. you know.. ask her about it..
Who knows what will happen

Good luck!

 

[elainenicklaus]

got 2 answer:1.dump her
2.forgive her n accept her
but anyway,i really think that girl dont really know how to appreciate 'ur friend'.erm..just a piece of advice,i got a failed relationship too by choosing a guy whos not inot cars.

 

[DarkAccoon]

then elaine can chose any of us here lorrr
cause all of us are interested in guys
=P

(why else would us guys be in here)

 

[satria_95]

When things are always a glitch, then it's time to ditch the bitch and make a gal switch.

 

[fstr]

gangbang then cabut lar

 

[AXXeLL]

kokan dude always have relationship problem question ehh....

from this story... my conclusion is.. she's avoiding u/ur friend (whoever ur addressing it)... she wants to spend sometime without u.. so i would say HIT THE ROAD BUDDIE ! ahahahah....

 

[acbc]

Got 2 secret to share...

1. Ask ur friend to disappear for a couple of days... see the GF call or not. If call and started crying + worries means still got chance to save the relationship. But, if no phone call or even SMS... then u know what do already.

2. Ask ur friend to go out with another girl (ask this girl to pretend) and see the GF reaction. If stoned + shocked = good news. If no reaction or buat tak tahu... time to move on.

Pssst... the above are just summaries... the details are far complicated. Cannot post here or else girls will know already... :p